Started at 6 in the morning to make a new video – why emotional numbness is not the real problem and what’s the real problem instead! 😮
I’m sure you appreciate it’s more useful to know what the real problem is and to have clarity of direction and action on what to do, than to have coping techniques and keep searching online for the wrong problem and all the frustration that comes with that😏
When you know what the real problem is, then it’s much easier to have a solution because you know exactly what you’re looking for in the first place, because you start asking yourself the right questions and directing your mind in specific parts and places within you
Here I explain how the real problem is not emotional numbness but:
✅ doubting and overthinking your emotions
✅ covering up emotions with anxiety
✅ controlling emotions and wanting them to be different than what they are
✅ changing emotions to suit what people want to hear, and feeling confused because neither of the two options works = confusion, anxiety, overwhelm, detachment
✅ avoiding rejection, abandonment, humiliation
✅ blocking negative emotions such as anger because “it’s bad”
✅ blocking positive emotions such as kindness, etc. because you should toughen up, you should be stronger, you shouldn’t show weakness, etc.
✅ believing you need an explanation/meaning before you fully feel an emotion
and similar beliefs, blocks, protections, avoidance patterns and thinking patterns
Stay tuned 💓
Giuseppe Tavella, DPDR/ Dissociation & Anxiety Specialist
