Here are some facts and shifts of perspective that will help you get rid of intrusive thoughts in dpdr and ocd:
1) Realize the ‘your’ thoughts are not really yours. You are not your mind, you are not thoughts. The moment where you say “these are my thoughts” thats where the troubles begin. Call them “the thoughts” or “those thoughts”
2) Realize that no one and nothing can change your intentions unless you give them permission to do so. Realize that thoughts cannot and will not change your intentions. Your intentions remain the same, whether you have positive or negative thoughts. Thinking bad thoughts doesnt make you a bad person.
3) Realize that thoughts do not control you. Thoughts control you to the same extent that you give power to them. Meaning that the more importance you pay to them, the more they will stay and will have power over you
4) Realize that anyone, whether they have ocd, dpdr, anxiety or not, absolutely everyone has scary thoughts in their life. It’s not thoughts being the problem, but your reaction towards them (the problem and solution at the same time)
5) Realize that it’s not those intrusive thoughts being the problem, but your focus that needs to become stronger. The stronger your focus is, the less power thoughts have
6) Realize that it’s not those intrustive thoughts being the problem, but your fear, anxiety and resistance towards them. If you fight fear with fear, how can you expect a positive outcome? If you fight fear with fear, fear amplifies itself and gets stronger. You can stop this loop by stop feeding fear with fear, and by realizing that those thoughts cannot and will not influence you because they don’t belong to you in the first place
To your success, Giuseppe