People ask me and are curious to know.. how is it possible that i can cure people in a matter of sessions instead of years?
So let me explain how this works once and for all, and most importantly the MAIN difference of why talk therapy is so slow and inefficient as far as speed and depth of results
Generally speaking, there’s one BIG difference between “slow” therapy and “rapid” therapy: How much you THINK about the answers 😮
What does that mean? It means that if the therapist asks you “how is this memory making you feel right now” you can come up with EVERYTHING but the real feeling. Examples:
❌ “well i feel nothing”
❌ “i feel angry but i guess it’s nothing big, just feeling a little hurt”
❌ “im adult, whats the point of being angry. It’s the past and we need to let go of the past”
❌”this memory.. i remember there was a book that talked about this. Interesting..”
❌ “i guess i feel sad but i dont know.. why should i feel sad, other people have had bigger traumas than me, i should be over this by now, why am i still stuck with it”
See? These are FAKE answers modified on an intellectual level with the final goal of:
✅ Telling the therapist what they want to hear instead of what you truly feel
✅ not giving the impression that you are weak and pretending you’re strong
✅ internally constructing an excuse that would indirectly seduce the therapist not to explore those painful parts of you
✅ dramatizing how you feel as a way to be understood
✅ filtering the real emotion you feel with other peoples eyes so instead of feeling it personally and feeling out of control, you can feel the emotion “as if it belongs to other people” so it’s more detached from you and you can discard it and say that it’s not yours when it gets painful – a form of “borrowing emotions”
✅ in front of a difficult question, internally searching and constructing the most plausible answer that would make “the most sense” based on other peoples feelings and experiences, statistics, books, theories and the knowledge you’ve absorbed – instead of how you truly feel
Now, how are you supposed to find and solve a problem in this jungle of fake problems?
In reality the real feeling is “I feel fucking angry!”. Thats it. No need to complicate it.
So any form of therapy where you have to process the answer on an intellectual level mostly likely is going to be slow and inefficient for a basic reason:
because you are not touching the real problem but an intellectually edited, easier, more comfortable version of the real problem that gets processed by your conscious mind,
the same part of your mind you’ve been using for years to GUESS what is the problem in your and how to fix it even when you are out of therapy! And how is that gonna work out and produce anything different, let alone an actual transformation? 😅
So if my student starts THINKING about the answer too much or speaks in “I guess” “I think” “my guess is that” format, especially when it’s an emotional matter,
i already know that what comes after that answer is a mental intellectual artifact that has little to do with the real answer and emotion, and therefore all my future efforts of helping my student will be way more inefficient because im operating from a place of “fakeness” so to speak
So now both you and the therapist you are working with are operating from a guess, hypothesis
Simply put: For therapy to be rapid and powerful, the conscious mind has to get out of the way. You must not have time to think about answers, elaborate, process, rationalize, intellectualize, make them nicer, more decorated,
trying to give a different impression and all this intellectual mess and irrelevant details and protection mechanisms that have nothing to do with the real problem!! 😅
Rapid therapy is rapid because the conscious mind doesnt have time to process stuff and defend you
Here’s the behind the scenes of why some therapies are rapid, and some therapies are excruciatingly slow.
Dont believe shit just because “it’s always been this way” or because it’s the only way they’ve taught you. Popular doesnt mean effective. Question stuff.
Just do the math.
Giuseppe Tavella, Dpdr & Dissociation Specialist